You heard me right. CONFIDENCE is sexy. Holding your head up and looking people in the eye speaks volumes about how you feel about yourself. Two women that I think of immediately when I hear this word are Melissa McCarthy and Beyoncé. They are at completely different ends of the spectrum as far as the media is concerned, but I maintain that both of these women focus on positivity and exude sex appeal. And it has nothing to do with size. Not a thing.
Someone posted a link on Facebook today that ties in with what I’m talking about here. We are constantly bombarded with images of what we should look like. But the TRUTH is gradually leaking out and it made me glad to see something that affirmed that we are all fabulous. “Here’s something the media doesn’t want you to know: you’re beautiful. It’s true. And here are the top 10 ways to make sure everybody knows it.” It’s three minutes and definitely worth the watch. (Surprise -- #5 talks about confidence) http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=qOz0DHoMsq8
My goal right now is to project confidence and the belief that we are all fabulous. Christina Aguilera’s song Beautiful is spot on: we get knocked down over and over by outside influences and other people’s ideals. It’s high time we listened to the positive voice inside ourselves – along with actually believing it.
And that’s the hardest part – actually believing
it. But as my friend and size-acceptance
goddess Marilyn Wann said recently on her own Facebook page, “If you’re not
going to be at home in your own body, where are you going to go?” Now that’s a powerful question…
I recently attended a web-based seminar called “How
to Stop Hating Your Body in 30 Days.” I highly recommend it!!! Whatever your current view on your physical
appearance, there is much to be gleaned from this movement of
self-acceptance. They specifically talk
about how we have come to hate our bodies and that this is a learned
behavior. Therefore we have to take time
to unlearn what we have ingrained in our craniums. They host this seminar once a month and you
can sign up on their website at: www.thebodyisnotanapology.com.
I think it is high time that we stop buying into
the lies that the media projects onto us.
Why should we spend our lives trying to reach some ridiculous “ideal”
that only about 2 - 5% of the population can maintain. And most of them have to work hard at it to
stay that way – just ask their personal trainers and chefs. Counteract the negative messages from the
media: find things you like about yourself and focus on those qualities. If you need help getting started ask friends
and family. Don’t listen to self-deprecating
talk from others; make them say something good about themselves when you hear
that. Reverse the trend – go against the
flow.
And if you need some encouragement in this area,
here is a toe-tapping groove from my fierce gal Beyoncé and the gals. Crank it up and dance around in your
underwear!!! And celebrate being alive
in your body!!!
Theme Song #20: Bootylicious by Destiny’s Child
Shaking the junk in my trunk,
Selina
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